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‘I need back-up NOW!’

Written by chaplain on 15 June, 2013. Posted in Uncategorized


Those words bring a chill when heard on the police radios. An officer needing help and needing it quick. It sends everyone running in hopes that the officer can just hold on till help arrives. Sometimes, they make it and all survive with a laugh and a pat on the back for a job well done. Sometimes, they don’t make it on time and the officer suffers and possibly is even killed. There is no laughter and no pat on the back; only an embrace with tears. I think this aspect of the job is what most officers fear. Will back-up always be there? Will someone cover my back?

As I was thinking about this dangerous part of the police work, I had this thought. There are battles off-duty which are just as frightening and dangerous. What about all those officers who are in an off-duty place that’s just as terrifying? Facing a relationship breakup or a domestic at home. They need help and quick. What about those officers who are stepping into another kind of trap that could end up destroying their life emotionally? The “affair trap”! It has caught many a good officer and done great damage and caused untold pain. These officers need back-up and help fast.

As a chaplain, I am a first responder much like you officers. I am here to help. Like you, a cry for help gets me running in hopes I can help the person.

I will be real with you just like I want you to be with me. I am heartbroken many times when I hear a cry from the heart. Often the officer has waited too long to make the call. So much damage has been done. The officer is emotionally dead and the relationship broken many times almost beyond repair. It’s heartbreaking to see what the affair trap can do to a man or a woman. An officer, a great person, husband or wife, down and out!

What can be done on the job to safeguard yourself? Talking to other officers and letting them know where you’re at and how you feel. Waiting for back-up because you just feel something is not right. I have seen some of you use this 6th sense to view the job and know that there is something more than meets the eye. Also, seeing yourself as part of a team, not just a loan ranger. Setting your pride aside and asking for help ahead of time because you’re not perfect and can make mistakes. In the end, really just understanding the danger that’s out there and not going at it alone is really the smart thing to do.

So what about off-duty? How can you safeguard yourself? Much the same as above. Stop, look, and listen! You need others! Don’t go it alone. Don’t get trapped by pride and what others might think.  Don’t wait too long to call for help. Vast amounts of damage will be spared if you call for help before you fall, not after. You can be spared from the “affair trap”. You need others to point it out sometimes. It’s a subtle one, but has big jaws and lots of power to maim. As a chaplain, I warn you! Don’t underestimate its power.

Now you may be thinking… ‘Ok chaplain, go away!’ Been told that. Or ‘Don’t ruin my fun’. Been told that, too! Or you may be thinking ‘I’m tough and don’t need any advice or back-up.  I’m a lone ranger and trust no one!’ Been told that, too! Let me tell you, you’re not that tough; no one is.  You’re not above advice.  You need back-up.  You also need accountability.  I need accountability and advice just like you do. I seek it out as I am determined not to fall morally and ruin my marriage, devastate my wife, and disillusion many.

I want to challenge you to read something that was given to us by our Creator. In it He warns us and informs us of what life is like.  He tells us what the battle will entail and what damage will be done. God warns us about the affair trap! You could call it “Don’t go it alone; you need My help or you’re going to get hurt!” Read it for yourself and see. Be prepared. Read Proverbs chapters 1-7 and see what it says to all of us—me, too.

Just a chaplain’s chat.  Steve Cowles


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